Saturday, 18 November 2017

"No wonder we are depressed"



I stumbled across this quote not so long ago, and it's safe to say that it hasn't really left my mind. Social media is a wonderful thing, but the more i use it the more i find myself sinking into a pit of doom questioning my confidence, challenging my self love and breeding my insecurities. In this post, i want to address a few thing that we all face on social media today. We do not realise the impact that social media has on us today, and i just want to bring it to your attention. This may seem like a rant but thats exactly what it is. a rant. People are allowed to do what they desire, but we need to be mindful about the implications it may have. 

Instagram perfection 
The people that post quotes about perfection not being real are the ones that strive to achieve it - odd right? 

I used a very expensive eyeshadow palette the other day and i created a beautiful look. I took photos with good lighting and i was quite pleased with the outcome! It was beautiful until i looked at other images on Instagram. Suddenly i looked back at the picture and found that my eye bags were larger than ever, the foundation was creased under my eyes, my eyebrows were not immaculate, and god dammit one eye lash was sticking out of place. Not to mention you could see my pores, fine lines and the texture of my face products! What an awful picture it had become. 

We have become so accustomed to these perfect airbrushed pictures that we see everyday. This is slowly being added to our memory bank of what makes a good photo and how we should be doing our makeup. The sad truth is that we are not going to achieve that without an expensive editing programme. Why is it that these unrealistic pictures are considered perfect and reinforced by huge brands, when in fact its almost false advertising? Why are we not allowed to show the features that make us human? Not one of our facial/body details are the same as anyone else in the world and yet we are being implicitly banished from sharing them. I still admire photos that have been retouched because i understand that the lighting may not be perfect or the photo would pop if the saturation was turned up. But when we are sharing photos that are incredibly photoshopped and so smooth we look like a porcelain doll, we really need to question the need. 

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"these healthy drinks have helped my weight loss" 
When in fact, you look nothing like that in real life and thats perfectly ok. Just don't trick people out of their hard earned money and innocence into thinking its going to work. 

Whenever i talk about this issue i feel particularly bitchy so i have to be careful about how i word it. I would never ever critique what someone looks like. I was scanning across an instagram page of a 'famous' reality show star and i was overwhelmed with the promo for weight loss drinks, weight loss powders and discount codes for many fashion brands. They looked great, there is no denying that. Then you look at the photos of them shopping, going to the cinema, hanging out of a taxi after a night out. Is that the same person? 

Again, i want to reiterate i am in no way putting a judgment out there about whether i think they look bad or not. I am judging how they are influencing other people. The impact of celebs on our body confidence, has been a long standing issue but thanks to the introduction of photoshop and editing apps, we can now make our waists as smaller as ever! I will come clean and say i have pushed my waist in slightly and maybe made my legs a tiny bit smaller. Afterwards, i questioned why i did it. Why do i have to look like how everyone else looks? Why is healthy, absent of size, not the main focus? My issue lies with these celebrities that are okay with posting pictures of their altered bodies, with certain poses to make themselves look more slim. They are free to do what they want whenever they want, but it has become this trend that everyone, myself included, feel compelled to do.

link to picture http://garygreenfitness.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Juice-Plus-Meme.png


bigger is better
One minute its butts were talking about and next its boobs and sadly the boob job you've just had, has now gone out of fashion. I've been reading up about this subject a lot recently. I have relatively small boobs. Theres something there but i'm not able to show cleavage when i wear a plunge top - now we understand! 

I have ALWAYS had a thing about my boobs. They don't look like the pin up girls boobs, they don't sit right, they're uneven. Now i want to pursue two issues here. The first is that society has taught us that if you don't have big boobs, you're not feminine enough. The classic pancake day joke 'this one is for you small boobed girls out there'. just don't. I'm all up for jokes but with the growing issue around bigger is better, its becoming quite hurtful. Nothing pushes us towards researching boob job consultancies more than pancake day. 

You cannot wear a certain style, and you will always be second to the person with big boobs. I'm not sure if thats how other people feel but its certainly how i feel. We tell ourselves this over and over until we believe that we are not worthy... because of two blobs on our body! I am always jealous of other peoples boobs, mainly because i think having bigger boobs will compliment my body better but also because i have this stupid idea drummed into me, that bigger is better. What is so wrong with smaller boobs? Why can i just accept them for how they are and stop this feeling of jealousy over big boobs. Boobs are boobs and they should never be a representation of how feminine we are. 

The second issue i want to pursue is that our boobs, mine included, can go from one size to another in a matter of seconds thanks to the push up bra which is seriously my best friend. One minute i will have big boobs and when i take it off, its back to being in the itty bitty titty club. It's the same with every girl! And you know what, its ok! Like i said, boobs are boobs. Furthermore, i have D sized boobs. now a D on someone with a different chest size, would look completely different. a letter doesn't define the size of our boobs.

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we see a fraction of the tumblr style pictures 
I have to admit it, i love seeing pictures of macbooks on grey fluffy blankets, with cute slippers and hot chocolates. Fairylights, magazines etc etc. They truly are beautiful pictures but we do not see what goes on behind the scenes. 

Is that really how we relax with our hot chocolates and MacBooks? I dont know about you but i sit there with my laptop with odd socks, unshaven legs (soz boys) and a scruffy dressing gown. I don't necessarily feel compelled to take perfect instagram pictures like that but again people see them and believe that our lives need to be perfect. Everything from how we look to how we use our mac books and what socks we wear! That is not real life, and as amazing as it would be, it's just not! 


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I apologise if this post has offended everyone (because everyone is offended by something these days) but i truly care for our generations to come and how they react to the perfect lives on social media. We are not perfect, we are real and cliche but we are beautiful. Perfection is not achievable because its not realistic. 

Next time we are scanning social media, remember that our lives are worth living and we need to appreciate the fact we are living.
















Friday, 7 April 2017

THE UGLY TRUTH BEHIND MY SKINCARE INGREDIENTS! ~ NEW Natural Skincare routine

Hey everyone...

click to watch my video!

So the past 3 weeks i have been doing a completely different skincare routine. The needs of my skin have changed as does everyone else. the skincare routine i was doing at 18 is no longer required as my skin now needs hydration and rebalancing, whereas at 18 i was looking to treat my acne. I wanted to switch up my routine as my skin was a loose canon and couldn't be controlled. So i thought, what if its like this because of harsh chemicals? I researched the ingredients and i was totally shocked at the list of chemicals used in my skincare. now SOME of these ingredients are not harmful however i am not comfortable with applying them to my face overnight when my skin has time to breathe.

From there on, I have been using all skin care products from LUSH cosmetics because they are the only company i know of that create products with natural ingredients. I wanted to try the more natural approach to test whether natural based products can affect my skin and the results can be seen down below. Take into consideration that i eat relatively healthy on the norm, drink about half as much water as i probably should be, and i am on cerazette contraception. These factors may influence your current skin situation! 

Right side: 3 weeks ago, Middle: 10 days ago, Left: Today (I had the flash on, it's not highlight don't worry!)
As you can see i still have acne scarring but the overall look to my skin is MUCH healthier and it feels amazing!

Now if you have a routine that works amazing for you please continue to do it, this is just the best one for me BUT i do encourage you guys to be careful about what you are letting your skin marinate in overnight!! Hope this video was helpful in some way! Below i have listed some of the most popular skincare ingredients and their effects on your skin! I'm not trying to make everyone go au natural but these are the ones that alarmed me. Again, do not let this alarm you but i personally am not comfortable with using these ingredients on my skin ~ xo

popular product ingredients and their effects on skin
Info taken from this blog - check here for more info!
http://www.cosmeticsinfo.org will also help you to check out your ingredients!


  • DimethiconeIt traps everything under it—including bacteria, sebum, and impurities—which could lead to increased breakouts and blackheads. The coating action actually prevents the skin from performing its normal activities—like sweating, temperature regulating, sloughing off dead skin cells, etc. Prolonged exposure to dimethicone can actually increase skin irritation, due to the coating property and because dimethicone is listed as a possible skin and eye irritant
  • Perfume ~ Most definitely will dry your skin out. There are some Products that claim to treat dry skin yet contain this ingredient?
  • phthalatesphthalates – which are used in cosmetics and also in many plastic objects – have been found to act as a hormone disruptor linked to reproductive defects, insulin resistance and developmental problems in children. They are usually found under the fragrance ingredient.
  • Mineral oil ~ Mineral oil forms a film on the skins surface that cannot be absorbed, therefore blocking your pores and trapping bacteria. It may also prevents any natural goodness getting to your pores!
  • polyaminopropyl biguanide ~ found in my Loreal skin perfection 15 second miracle cleansing oil. This ingredient is banned in personal care products but the substance is still being used! Im going nowhere near it! It's banned for a reason and im not finding out why!














Saturday, 4 March 2017

February Monthly Discount Codes

Hey guys so I thought I would compact these discount codes and post monthly as I have more discount codes to come! This is a simple and easy way to get the codes without the fluff! If no new discount codes are added, then I will skip the month! 

 ♥ Type these codes into the promotional discount code bar to get discount. ♥ 

IRRESISTIBLE ME | 10% OFF EVERYTHING | CODE: ' IrresistibleShannon'

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LANI HAIR OIL | 15% OFF | CODE: ' Shani15'
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Stvdio5 Vegan food for your skin | 50% OFF | CODE ' shannon 50 '
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SexyBox Lingerie Subscription Box |
$15 off Monthly subscription CODE: 'SexyShannon40'
$20 off Quarterly subscription CODE: 'Sexy3Box'
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SOUFEEL Jewellery | 5% OFF | CODE: 'Shannon5'
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Coconut Lane | 20% OFF | CODE: 'shanifani20'
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Milk and Blush | £5-£10 OFF | UK CODE: 'SHANI5' WORLDWIDE CODE: 'SHANI10'
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